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There are also instances when it's not relegated to ethnicity or culture but due to socioeconomic status and/or educational attainment.
Regardless of the differences, if the couple truly desires to stay together and are committed to the relationship then my recommendation in therapy is for them to stay the course.
“The problem is, Vietnamese women are getting prettier and prettier,” said Nhan, perched on a stool at his cozy establishment that serves up draft beer, hamburgers and female employees in short shorts who flirtatiously brush against male customers they like. “The tradition has been the male chases after the female,” Liem said. Not long ago, a buddy of his overstayed a two-week second visa issued by his girlfriend. Guys 50 and over can get girls who are in their 20s and look like models.
“Now, it’s the other way around in Vietnam.” Said one Vietnamese-American tech executive from Silicon Valley who didn’t want to reveal his name for fear of causing his own second visa problems: “You get hit on all the time. “When he came back, she tossed all his stuff out onto the street,” he said. It’s too good to pass up.” A friskiness permeates the culture in Vietnam that many men visiting from other countries find irresistible.
The men’s significant others contend that Vietnamese women lie in wait to ambush them, often eager for the financial stability such a match would bring. She said she lost her man to such a love guerrilla a few years ago.
Women are worried The tension over this issue has reached epic proportions in the Bay Area Vietnamese community and elsewhere. Any time a man travels back alone, she added, it’s assumed he’s not just going to visit Uncle Vu or Cousin Thuy but to play in a country with an abundance of attractive young women.
“So I rarely disclose my upcoming trip until the last minute. The longer she knows, the longer I have to bear the pain.” Thirty-six years after the Vietnam War ended, Communist government officials openly welcome Vietnamese-Americans back, even those who fought against them.
But another Civil War has erupted, this one pitting Vietnamese-American women against their husbands and boyfriends who want to return to the Southeast Asian country. ” said Ha Tien, 38, who owns an accounting business in San Jose.
In some examples, parents won't acknowledge or talk to the couple or the significant other whom they disapprove of. In extreme cases, parents will disown their children because of their marital choices.Vietnamese comedy skits poke fun at the household strife and pop performers sing about it. “There is not a Vietnamese family (in Silicon Valley) that doesn’t know a man who has done this,” Tien said.