Dating someone who has bipolar disorder
When you have a good mentality, when you are strong and confident and generally happy with yourself… And this can include those you are intimate with – your spouse, your girlfriend or boyfriend – anyone. After all, you attracted this BPD or Bipolar person into your life. It takes a lot of discipline and time to develop this part of you.
It’s obviously insecurity as the root cause of fights and arguments. Having a strong belief system, having the right mindsets, the right attitude and all that is key to healthy, fulfilling relationships. One of the most important factors in the health of a relationship is how you handle your emotions (refer to my cold shoulder article to get more depth on this). It’s a big part of the Attitude that I constantly talk about because it’s sooooo important to relationship success. If you can learn about all of these small mistakes that people make, you can easily avoid failure.
And more often than not, you aren’t rewarded for your hard work and effort that you put into the relationship.
It sucks, but this is usually what happens to those who take up the sword and become the Knight in Shining Armor.
You probably believe that there is “no way” that you’re Borderline or Codependent or whatever. It’s been proven over and over again that we are drawn to individuals who have similar “vibes” as us.
We’re drawn to people with similar beliefs, values, upbringing and so on. Most of all, I learned what does NOT work in these relationships.
Borderline’s and people with Bipolar Disorder will often try to tear you down. Emotional control, in my opinion, is all about having thick skin that’s equivalent to 10-inches of solid steal. What I want you to do is confuse this Attitude as you becoming some non-emotional drone. Emotions are good, they’re powerful, they are what make us human. But there’s a positive way of using your emotions and a negative way. You can start playing to win instead of playing to not lose.
Lack of strength and being firm is a big problem that most people struggle with. As a result, you must have an understanding of manipulation and tests.
Which is what brings me to my next point: There are many, many common mistakes that men and women make which all but guarantee the death of the relationship. But rest assured, it WILL eventually die a slow, slow death. Which then brings you on the internet looking for help in these BPD/Bipolar relationships.