Dating out of loneliness
Trying to force too much on your relationship too soon is like asking a three-year-old to organize your retirement plan. Allow your relationships to mature in their own time and in their own way.
Regardless, the belief in a soulmate can create a sense of urgency, much like a one-day-sale at a department store encourages you to pull the trigger on a purchase. There are many people that can be a good fit for you.And this pressure can also lead you to make decisions that you would not on your own.Commit because you’re ready, not because you feel like you have to.It can be tempting to slide into exclusivity too soon as an excuse to exit the dating scene. The transition between “Hi, it’s nice to meet you” and the dedication to exclusivity or cohabitation is an important one.
But entering into a relationship because you’re tired of dating is a bit like buying a house because you’re tired of paying rent. Many early relationships fail to make this shift from casual to committed, as one or more key elements are found lacking or connections are found to be weak. In fact, that is what dating is all about – trying on, testing out and sometimes, sending back.
When you have been married or in an exclusive relationship for a long time, it is all you know.